February 8, 2007
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Where’s that coffin when I need it?
Topic: Dead Bodies
The first human death I dealt with, was my cousin’s.
I was 10 years old and horrified.
He had been murdered at a (flying red horse) Mobil station, for $50.00, in Eden Prairie, MN.
Rick was filling in for his boss, who was having a party a ways back from the station.
He found Rick in the men’s bathroom. He had been kneeling, and
was shot in the back of the head. This was August 6, 1963.I felt especially wounded, since I had had a big crush on Rick
(we were not related by blood). Being an impressionable,
sensitive and naive young girl-this was so hard to process.The day of the funeral was rough for me.
Rick did have an open casket.
My mother was trying to persuade me to lean
over, and give him a kiss, which I couldn’t do.
(I had nightmares for years, about him)We sat in the family section, and when it came time to close the coffin,
I couldn’t bear it anymore, and ran off to the bathroom to cry.
This wasn’t some faint whimpering, I was bawling.
All I remember about afterwards, is my
going to a friend’s house, and avoiding
the rest of the funeral and burial.
I couldn’t stop crying.I wondered, years later about forgiveness.
One of the men at that site that night,
had gone on to write a book.
He was temporarily given time out, from prison
to advertise his book, on TV.
I felt like my blood was curdling, as this man
wrote about the very thing he had done-murders.Rick had been 22 and about to adopt his wife’s
children from a former marriage of her’s.***
That was long ago.
Much has changed since then.
I have experienced other deaths,
some of them suicides, some accidental.
I look upon a dead body now
as just a shell of the former
person inhabiting that body.Thank you for reading!
Laurie
P.S. Anna Nicole Smith found dead. No report yet on what caused her death…
Comments (49)
That is a rough story. hug
Sad story sweetie but thank you for sharing
Love you
Wow that is tragic. It is so hard when people get taken from our lives. And its so infuriating when murders profit from their ways. Like the whole OJ Simpson thing. If I had done it. What a crock.
Anyways I’m off my soap box now. Thanks for sharing your story with us!
Sad story, prayers to heal your heart……….blessings.:wave::fun::sunny:
sad story. i’d be pissed at the self-promoting killer, too.
love you..
I was very much taken by your post. I am so sorry it was so terrible for you.
hello there :wave::wave:
that’s a very hard age to process death, i remember. my dad died when i was 11, but the coffin was not open. he was in an auto crash over in louisiana, and a semi-truck hit them (there was another man in the car with him). but yes, i cried for years over that one, so i know what you’re talking about.
on a more cheerful note, good afternoon to you, my laurie. hope you’re keeping warm. :love:
Wow, that is really rough. I assume that’s probably when you lost your innocence or childhood (or both). Thanks for sharing.
Hmm, what a story, nothing for a ten year old. How can you forgive an execution?
Howard Stern did it:giggle:
that’s a lot for a young girl to process and understand.
thank you for sharing.
~c
Sorry for your loss.
wow. that is a touching story. i’m sorry for your loss. thanks for sharing.
you have a great background. love the picture.
ryc: No, they weren’t married. Not even sure which one of two guys might be the daddy. Sad, sad day.
Wow that was rough. Have a great night. ang
RYC: Thanks, sweetie!
You did a great job sharing the experience you felt. The first is hard for several reasons, but when they are very close, it can haunt us for years.
ryc: I am glad you enjoyed my post. It was fun to put that twist on this topic…
This is just one leg of our journey:goodjob:
wow. the things that occur in our lives. It is not something to ever forget.
What an experience. I’m sure it was traumatic just recounting it to tell. Thank you for sharing it with all of us!
What a sad story.
That would be very traumatic, especially at that age. How awful!
It’s seems the older we get the more dead people we know.
ive never really felt someone close to me or related to me that had died.guess im really blessed, thx alot! u reminded me that i should be greatful of not having that feeling yet.
but i guess theres a beauty in death. all their pain has been washed away, and they don’t feel it anymore, and we always know theyll be watching over us.
ryc: Thank you.
In less a second you go from a living body to a dead body . What a mystery ! Death is a deep mystery , dear Laurie .
Love :heartbeat:
Michel
I forgot to say Iunderstand your reaction when your cousin has been murdered .
Michel
have missed you too dear, very much.
and strange but not so strange about Anna Nicole. It is sad, but I was nearly expecting it.
Love and more love for you ! :littlekiss:
huff!! That was sad!!
:heartbeat: *hugs* :heartbeat:
and *runs to the kitchen and gives you a big strong coffe* hope youll like it!!!
mwah
xxx :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat: :heartbeat:
What was your mother thinking! I would be terrified.
Tragic death like that is hard to except! Thanks for shearing. We had one in our area years ago in Chicago. Two brothers were gunned down in a drug deal gone bad. Sixteen and seventeen, it was a tragic senseless killing! (Hugs) Have a good weekend!
There’s something traumatic about seeing the dead body, the first time. I was firmly attached to my mom when her aunt died & I didn’t like her leaving me (age3-4) when she visited the coffin. I now know why she did. Thank God.
Interesting photo in your yesterday blog. I hope she didn’t start a brush fire.
A very strange tale of death and pain. For young children it is a debatable topic whether or not to expose the young to death. However as I get older there will be more and more experiences to see concerning death. How I deal with it is more personal and I thank you for your point of view.
That’s a lot for a young person to experience. I’m sorry for your loss even though it’s been years. These experiences, and these people, never do leave us. May we learn from those who have gone before us.
That is a sad, sad story.
I felt sorry for ANS. I think it must be very tough to be 39 and aging, not naturally thin and continually dieting and to be famous only for your looks and not for any talent. Even tougher, her only son dying. I think that could drive anyone to drugs or suicide, I think a lot of mothers would go out of their minds.
I hate the way she was a bit of a joke in real life and now, in death, is being compared to Marilyn Monroe, and everyone is saying how wonderful she is. Hollywood people are such fakes.
past menopause? if you say so…
What a tragic loss … I can only imagine how traumatic it must have been for you …
RYC: I always try to bring things out in public .. I’m working on tomorrow’s post .. I’m bringing something else out in public!!! Thanks for always stopping by, for your wonderful comments and for your friendship. It means more to me than you will ever know!!
ya! Alicia
ryc: (:lol:) no, i ain’t fucking kidding.
<3
ryc: truth? i was so tired this morning, i had no choice but to take care of basic needs. there is no more NOW than that. :wave:
Thanks for stopping by. I’m on my way out of town, but I’d like to comment on this entry. Please be patient and I will be back.
I have been to many funerals, none of them murders though. How awful. Very well written post… thank you for sharing!
I’m sorry for your loss. The raw emotions comes through. Blessings abound
I’ve never known anyone that was murdered.
I love your background and thanks for stopping by!
that is a sad story. i have never had someone close to me die…but i don’t know how i will handle it when it happens. i think i will read a few more of your posts~
Such a sad story.
I have no words…:(
I came earlier and didn’t get to finish your post. Today I have returned to do just that. I am sure writing this brought back the intensity that you felt. Thankfully you now have years of space that can help you in the understanding of the house our soul lives inside. Thank you for taking the time to share this story. I remember crying that hard when my great grandmother died. It was a vulnerable age.
I have also enjoyed your other entrys I read on my way to this one today!
Have a great day.